I posted a while back about some drama between my friends who are getting married and myself, and some other people... well the other people in that thread have become a real problem.

If you remember the husband had his truck in my driveway and it was not leaving. many of you suggested that I have the truck towed. well I did not have it towed. instead I took one of my lunch breaks and went home and worked on his truck. I was able to cut the pitman arm off and he was able to finish his work and get the truck gone later that day while i was at work.

Before I got the pitman arm off I put a post on facebook about how the truck had become a problem and how i wanted it gone. this lead to the wife of my "friend" (the guy with the truck) getting very upset and telling me it was all because of the pitman arm. so thats when I decided I'd take it off so the truck would go away.

after reading all her rants about how I'm a bad person for not letting them keep the truck in my driveway longer I simply "unfriended" her. I felt there was nothing more that needed said the truck was gone, and I was happy to get them out of my life.

In reply to the "unfriending" she wrote me a very very very mean message saying things like she hoped I dropped dead. I simply replied, that I thought she was a mean person, and I was glad to have her out of my life. She replied with a second message full of equal hate to the first. I didn't reply feeling I had said my peace.

Fast forward 2 weeks, til today, and I'm in my bosses office. and he is talking of planning an outing to the shooting range. he pulls up his e-mail to look for a contact of a guy who went with us last time. I see an e-mail with my name on it, but not from me. from some random woman. I asked him what it was about. and he showed it to me. It was a copy of my facebook wall with a note saying that I was a bad employee because I was on facebook all the time.

*Note about my job: I work for an engineer. I'm a drafter. there is more then once a day I'm waiting to talk to my boss or one of the engineers. they do a lot of work over the phone, so yeah, I so post on peach parts and I post on facebook to fill the time... its boring sitting at my desk waiting for the phone lines to go dead.

My boss is a cool guy, I've worked there for a while, it will be 8 years this July. My boss laughed it off, but I took the opportunity to ask him if he had any complaints about my work, because I wanted him to know work comes first... I think he knows that after 8 years, but I like trying to be professional. My bosses advice is to let it slide, he said he was going to act as if he never got the e-mail, and that I should do the same.

But, this is eating at me. She (the wife of truck guy) took the time out of her day to look up my company website and find my boss and send him an e-mail, for what to get me fired? why? because I wouldn't let their truck live at my house? I just don't understand any of this.


Sorry for the rant, I needed to tell someone, and not anyone who knows my facebook

PS as to my job security, my boss is sending me on my first site visit alone, normally this is work for the engineers, but it involves flying to LA for the day and no one wants to go up and back in one day. Its not a large job, and I've already drawn the plans so i know whats going on. we need more info about the existing equipment so basically I'm just going to take notes and pictures. But I'm stoked about the opportunity to contribute more to the company, and hopefully it will out me in a better spot at work.

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Good Lord, someone is *MARRIED* to that hellion?

I don't care HOW hot she is or is good in bed, any female that would do THAT to you is UTTERLY off the rails.


I am sure glad I am not married to ANYONE and you better do your due diligence first, if *YOU* ever think of it.


Carleton Hughes' saying comes to mind: Marriage is like a funeral where you can see and smell your own flowers.


^^^^^^^ <-------- Remember that.

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And let me know where in LA you are going, if you'd like some advice about where to have lunch or whatever. I drove about 50,000 miles in 2009 and a LOT of that was going from Grass Valley to LA and back.

I know the valley, the west side, downtown and OC REAL well now. WONDERFUL food to be had.

Have fun.

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1995 E 420, 170k "The Red Plum" (sold)

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1967 Mercury Cougar, 49k

2013 Jaguar XF, 20k <----340 hp Supercharged, All Wheel Drive (sold)

If the nice lady does not find someone else to fixate on you may have to get the services of either a lawyer or the police. Do not procastinate too much.

The next time if it occurs will be too much in my mind. At that point thinking she will still go away is too risky.

People with bad intent can usually find a way honest or otherwise to damage a person. Remember you are in all likelyhood not the first. She obviouisly has some issues. Always beware any evidence of a mentally unbalanced person. Keep a copy of the last email as well.

You have a real winner on your hands I suspect. I also suspect you already know that her performance is already over the edge. Whatever you do at present do not respond directly to her yourself. This behaviour could escallate as a result.

You temporarily are one step ahead of her if she does not know you know about her letter to the boss. There are always going to be a few people out there with major issues in society.

Start a facebook group about her, and she'll get her inbox filled with equally idiotic hate from people she doesn't even know

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Well, * I * do.




"No good deed shall go unpunished"

~~Dorothy Parker.


We used to say that all the time, and the Judges did too, when the criminals that got let off REAL easy, came back AGAIN, to San Francisco Criminal Superior Court, where we worked, after "picking up another new beef" and asking for a second or third "bite of the apple".

Over and over.

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1991 560 SEC AMG, 199k <---- 300 hp 10:1 ECE euro HV ...

1995 E 420, 170k "The Red Plum" (sold)

2015 BMW 535i xdrive awd Stage 1 DINAN, 6k, <----364 hp

1967 Mercury Cougar, 49k

2013 Jaguar XF, 20k <----340 hp Supercharged, All Wheel Drive (sold)

hahahahaha, yeah, go facebook her mother ...

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1991 560 SEC AMG, 199k <---- 300 hp 10:1 ECE euro HV ...

1995 E 420, 170k "The Red Plum" (sold)

2015 BMW 535i xdrive awd Stage 1 DINAN, 6k, <----364 hp

1967 Mercury Cougar, 49k

2013 Jaguar XF, 20k <----340 hp Supercharged, All Wheel Drive (sold)

Three thoughts & observations:

I) Facebook may be viewed by many as a waste of time, and somewhat juvenile. Ask yourself why are you spending time on it - especially exchanging personal/private information for anywho to see and read? To me it seems odd to participate in - with people becoming angry and hostile toward you.

II) People other than your immediate family with cars/trucks in your driveway. Why......? To me, I would find it stange to have other peoples cars or trucks in my driveway.....

III) I would suggest you establish guidelines and install interfacing boundaries in your life that don't seem to exist at this time. Perhaps you are spending too much time with the wrong people, and communicating information in perhaps the wrong venues - so to speak....

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All valid points, and ones I have questioned many times and I'm questioning now. to reply just for clarity.

I) A friend started my facebook for me, I didn't use it for a long time, and then some how it replaced my email list as a way to communicate with my fiends and family. I generally only post links on there. more of like a news feed to the odd news storied I read then anything else.

II) I've always been a very open person, willing to help anyone. If you lived near me and needed help on your car, and we were friends I wouldn't give a second thought to letting you park it in my driveway. Problem with this friend is that he was not working on the truck, he would only work on the truck enough to get me involved, then I was working on it for him... and thats not what we agreed to. suppose the key word is help, I have no problem lending assistance, tools, and a place to do the work. but in the end its your responsibility to get the job done. my "friend" has a problem with responsibility, and that leads us to your third point

III) I try and pick good people as friends, and I've been lucky to have some really great friends (Jim B knows some of them ) but at this point in my life its time to prune the friendship tree.

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SirNic,
A couple of things to remember
1/ Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned !!
2/ Such a woman will never let the truth get in the way of a good story !!

I recall a saying that was supposed to have come from one of Nixon's aids.
"When you have got them by the ##### their hearts and minds will follow"
She has certainly got the new hubby by the ##### !!

It would make you feel good to retaliate, but some how I think she would drag you down to her low level of decency (in the gutter) & beat you with experience.
You could have fun with photo shop & some pics of her face & some bodies off a site that any half decent person would not normally go to.

PS As an engineer I dont mind admitting that on many occasions, especially just after I left university, it would be a drafty that would bail me out of deep #### when I made an error!!

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1980 300D now parts car 800k miles
1984 300D 500k miles
1987 250td 160k miles English import
2001 jeep turbo diesel 130k miles
1998 jeep tdi ~ followed me home. Needs a turbo.
1968 Ford F750 truck. 6-354 diesel conversion.
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My technique for dealing with people like that woman: Mentally delete them from your users list. As far as you are concerned, they simply cease to exist. Do not think about them again, good or bad. It can be much more satisfying than trying to get even somehow.

She is an unhappy person.

Your best revenge is to ignore her, and enjoy life.
If she knows you are happy, even better.

This will drive her nuts....

Jim

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Good story and I have cut the strings with people before just because they are idiots (not facebook).

1. It takes two to tango - never answer a text or email back that is hatefull. By answering you are giving the writer his/her wish.

2. Its somewhat common in my business for an outsider (non employee) to call in and snitch on an employee. Usually its a ex - girlfriend/boyfriend/wife, etc. Fill in that blank. The more obsurd the complaint the less attention I pay to it - and unless it something of a serious nature that could possibly affect business or is a risk, it always goes in file 13 and rarely discussed with employee.

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She was jealous of her husband's bromance with you. That's it!

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Don't understand the need for all this social networking website crap myself. I guess that makes me a curmudgeon but it just seems to be superfluous and opens one up to a bunch of unnecessary bs. You might do better to simply return to e-mail.

Nice to have a work environment where that sort of thing happens.

That's pretty darn neat right there. I'm not a draughter myself but over the last few years I've worked closely with architects and builders in a similar way with our new school projects. We have two big ones about to start up again and I'm heavily involved in meetings, plans, site visits etc. Often wondered if I should go do a draughting course and maybe look for anohter job.

- Peter.

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Did you get your boss to forward a copy of the email to you? If not, and if it hasn't been deleted, have him do it.

Next thing you do is take it to a lawyer and have the lawyer write a "cease and desist" letter to her with the implication that there will be consequences if she continues to libel you to your employer or others. That should send a clear enough message.

The last thing you do is follow the advice you've received from a number of people here and implement very strict controls on social networking if you have to continue to do it at all. There isn't much good that comes from it, and it exposes you to all kinds of risk for now and the future.

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