Anyone else dealing with a breakup? - Page 3 - PeachParts Mercedes-Benz Forum

Larry Delor · #31 09-03-2008, 12:39 AM

Well, last time I was there, sometime in the mid 80's, it was called the Cheetah Club. They had a glass enclosed shower on the stage - working the crowd into a lather.

2k2s430 · #32 09-03-2008, 12:46 AM

LD
yup thats the Million Dollar Salloon alright

Monomer · #33 09-03-2008, 01:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Larry Delor

Well, last time I was there, sometime in the mid 80's, it was called the Cheetah Club. They had a glass enclosed shower on the stage - working the crowd into a lather.

still there.

I'm not going to turn into the sorry men I work with. Time and money will be invested in much more long-term projects (aka, my rabbit.)

Just to clarify, she did not have sex. She went out for training in MN (she's a flight attendant now) and it happened when she came back. She thought about breaking up with me then, and did something I didnt think she was capable of - giving another man (I'll call it random, as there was no time for dating) oral. This was a month ago. no further details.

I Think it's just hitting me.

Just last week we fell asleep in each others arms, completely careless about the world. I really don't know if I could ever find someone like her, and I'm afraid If I try to, I'll just be comparing everything to her.

As much as I want her back, I don't think I'll ever be capable of. I'm a spiritual person; I've already forgiven her for whats she's done, as it's the only way to pass this on. I was completely willing to make this work, up until she finally told me. I believe any relationship has the ability to work out, both party's have to be willing to sacrifice and work through the hard times.

People do mess up. I'm almost willing to give her a chance (yes, we were that close...)

2k2s430 · #34 09-03-2008, 08:55 AM

Well I hope you get through it Monomer. She is wrong for betraying your trust and your love. Getting back together with her would be a huge mistake. Don't make the mistake of comparing ex girlfriend to any new girlfriend you may meet. That would not be fair to the new GF, don't start dating until you are ready!

Monomer · #35 09-03-2008, 10:00 PM

I hope to bump this thread years from now and still be with her.

mpolli · #36 09-04-2008, 04:31 AM

Compare post 18 to post 35. Hmmmm.... You are in a tough spot. The others here have given you some good advice and the years of their experience. It is tough being so young. I remember being 21, I think...

I can't tell you what to do, to do this or that, or not this or that. But just remember to respect yourself. That is about the only sure advice I can give you that is guaranteed. That is your yard stick, are you respecting youself and are others (and her) respecting you. That is about all you have. I won't tell you the answer to this question. Some people are better able to sense when things feel "right" or "wrong". Some people are not so good at it. Consider that she may be a sign on the "broken road" leading you to the right person out there for you. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bA9gpN-OWEs&feature=related
Yes, country music has an answer...

Gurkha · #37 09-04-2008, 02:39 PM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TUVgkXVDkBA

Monomer · #38 04-18-2009, 05:08 PM

Shes done it again.

well, she had "feelings" for someone else (read: crush)

She has problems at home also. her parents are divorced (when she was young) Her father started going out with other women, and she decided that was wrong of him (when he brought up marrying one of them, she said she'd she would basically disown him) so her parents decided to date again - soon after he got her job she found out he's been talking to other women. She's torn and dosnt want to confront him about it.

She feels like she has no home, between the two parents houses she usually finds herself sleeping on the couch. I would have loved to move in with her, but I cannot afford to leave my parents house here (cool parents, more $$ for car parts) and I plan on going to college - the state gives grants away for people over 24 and living at home (business school for next to nothing)

I feel I dont deserve this at all. She has problems at home that seem far more important than me. I feel some time apart would be better for the both of us.

I dont think a couple of weeks will do. I'm almost wishing I met her at a later time in my life. I dont think I could lose her for a few years while we both get our acts together and then come back together.

I just dont know what to do with myself, although I'm carring myself well currently.

(Cliff Notes: devoriced parents **** with kids head, broke kid exploiting a loophole for school, IE doesnt have spell-check on this machine. That is all)

Fitz · #39 04-18-2009, 05:53 PM

Well, there must be something somewhere
That makes me want to hurt myself inside

-john prine "there she goes"

tankdriver · #40 04-18-2009, 06:53 PM

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Originally Posted by G-Benz

Wanting to remain friends is simply her way of attempting to shed the guilt caused by her transgressions. She gets to move on with a clear conscience, knowing you have forgiven her (as a result of you keeping the friendship intact).

It's worse than that. These kinds of chicks want to be friends because they aren't done f**king you over yet and want to make sure they were so good you can't get over them for a long time. All the while keeping you around in case the new guy or single life goes sour. You're the back up plan.

Antony · #41 04-18-2009, 08:01 PM

I'm sorry for your troubles, that's all I can say.

cmbdiesel · #42 04-19-2009, 10:29 AM

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

Like tank said, you're plan B. Dump her and move on. Stay friends if you want, but don't sleep with her, or she'll sucker you in again. Time to think with the big head.

Monomer · #43 04-19-2009, 05:09 PM

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Originally Posted by tankdriver

It's worse than that. These kinds of chicks want to be friends because they aren't done f**king you over yet and want to make sure they were so good you can't get over them for a long time. All the while keeping you around in case the new guy or single life goes sour. You're the back up plan.

She DID drop the "Can we just be friends" line about 2 weeks ago.

I knew it was over as soon as she said it.

She's flying right now and has been sending me texts every few days. I dont respond. Why waste more of my time?

-being the nice guy sucks

C280 Sport · #44 04-19-2009, 05:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Monomer

It's hitting me hard.

I've loved her for the past two years. I've done everything for her. She just came clean last night - she's "given please" to another man.

I'm trying to fathom how someone can be so heartless. She even said she'd thought about it before doing it, and how it would effect us.

I kicked her to the curb. She still wants to be friends, but I dont think I can ever forgive her...

Very sorry to hear about this. She is the wrong person for you. Once a cheater always a cheater. Am I dealing with a breakup? No. But I have a 13 year old and a 20 year old and they deal with this stuff all the time. Seems like every other week its someone new. You made the right choice of getting rid of her. As far as being friends. Forget about that. If she hurt while in a relationship she will hurt you while "Just friends" as well. I would move but if you do ever see her in person just try to be nice and forget about what happined. Best of luck.

Kuan · #45 04-19-2009, 07:42 PM

Dude WTF man. You're young. Once you get p*ssy from some other girl you'll forget about this one in no time.