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Old 02-17-2003, 11:44 AM
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Women.. can't live with them, can't live w/o them

OK.. I guess I don't quite understand them. Perhaps if I were to share my experience... I might get some words of wisdom from our older-than-me mercedes fans. Perhaps even someone had a similar incident in life and would like to share?
I met this girl three years ago through a good friend of mine. This was during a trip to visit family in Poland. Anyways, a few days after I was introduced... my friend went on a camping trip for 2 weeks. So I spent more time with this girl, getting to know each other and so forth. To make a long story short.. we got to each other really well and became extremely close. Before I left, I explained my feelings to her which I began to develop for her as time went on. Unfortunately, I had to come back home to the US. The next summer, I come over... I see her, but she was a totally different character than the person I knew the previous year. I was basically put-off by her, and found out that she was in a relation and so forth. So I was yea... thats good. I was so happy to finally come back to visit her and I was put off like that. Then, this past summer... we went on another trip to visit family again. I didn't expect much or anything to happen. I was somewhat heart-broken.. but thought I could handle it. Anyways.. one day I met her and said a friendly hello to her. This time she responded to me and later on we began to talk again like we once used to. I could see that she changed back to the same person that I once used to know. Eventually.. I found myself still with big and strong feelings for her. So I had to tell her that.. but all I did was make her cry about it. Turns out she just entered another relation with her friend. So I was like.. bummer. To this day.. since early summer, she's been with that dude. Its bee pretty rough on me I guess. Its not often that you find a girl or woman who has both the looks and personality you desire. Anyways... I just don't get women. One day they can be so close to you and the next they just put you off.

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Old 02-17-2003, 11:50 AM
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Let me get this straight she in Poland? I love you can't control the rigors of love but you can control reality. You need to do one of two things move to Poland or get on with your life.

One of my ex-girlfriend's mother asked me if I loved someone before her daughter, when I answered yes she said then you will love again.....she was right.

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Old 02-17-2003, 11:54 AM
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Yes, she does live in Poland. We keep contact now through emails and such. Sometimes even text messages. I plan on going to an English medical school in Poznan, Poland once I am done with College. That would get us closer I guess.
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Old 02-17-2003, 12:06 PM
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Re: Women.. can't live with them, can't live w/o them

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Anyways... I just don't get women.
Let's see...........I'm 46.........and STILL haven't figured out the other sex. Welcome to reality
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Old 02-17-2003, 12:06 PM
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I agree with rs'...Whether you believe she's "the one" or not, a long-distance relationship in different hemispheres is pretty much impossible, not to mention miserable and unfair to one or both people involved, as you have already learned.

For it to ever have a chance, one of you would have to pack your bags and move. Moving to the other side of the planet for a relationship is a pretty daring move...so I'd invest a little more time making SURE that it's the right thing to do!

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I agree with rs'...Whether you believe she's "the one" or not, a long-distance relationship in different hemispheres is pretty much impossible, not to mention miserable and unfair to one or both people involved, as you have already learned.

For it to ever have a chance, one of you would have to pack your bags and move. Moving to the other side of the planet for a relationship is a pretty daring move...so I'd invest a little more time making SURE that it's the right thing to do!

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I agree with rs'...Whether you believe she's "the one" or not, a long-distance relationship in different hemispheres is pretty much impossible, not to mention miserable and unfair to one or both people involved, as you have already learned.

For it to ever have a chance, one of you would have to pack your bags and move. Moving to the other side of the planet for a relationship is a pretty daring move...so I'd invest a little more time making SURE that it's the right thing to do!

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Old 02-17-2003, 12:32 PM
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Listen to Mike he's a Rock Star...Rock Star = wise in the ways of women

hahaha...

Experienced--Yes. Every job has its perks, although not to the degree MTV and the E! channel would have you believe!

Wise in the ways of women--I don't think that is possible.

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Old 02-17-2003, 06:23 PM
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am i the only one that is going through this situation. No one went through something like that before? hmmm...
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Old 02-17-2003, 06:25 PM
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I bet EVERYBODY in this forum has gone through it, well maybe except one.
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Old 02-17-2003, 06:55 PM
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am i the only one that is going through this situation. No one went through something like that before? hmmm...
I did have a kind of similar situation when I was 18-19. I finally decided it was time to move on. We parted friends and kept in touch for several years. I think she would have commited, but we had a major theological difference that kept a wall between us. Otherwise we were a great match, and had a lot in common.
It's hard to give a pat answer to your situation, too many variables. Personality, culture, interests, ect. But if she's not willing to commit to you, you may have to make a similar decision as I did. It was tough, but looking back, it was the right decision. The girl I ended up marrying has been a good faithful companion for 23 years now.
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Interesting rickg.. except i don't talk about theology or religion with any of my friends.

Well, to tell you the truth, of all the lady friends I have and had in the past... her personality is almost dead on in what I look for a friend and companion. I think I am partly at fault in this situation because I have not made it clear to her about my feelings the previous year. When she found out this past summer, you could tell she was hurt and was put in between a decision. When she found out about this... I guess it was a really emotional time for her, and all she said was that I had a chance with her(w/o me even asking). The thing that confuses me the most is how long would I have to wait for this "chance". Ehhh.. girls always play hard to get and are out their to p*$$ some guys off, huh? :p
I guess I should wait it off... maybe a little luck would fall on my side.

Anyways rickg.. you are right about that though, I would need her to commit as well.
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"Eventually.. I found myself still with big
and strong feelings for her. So I had to tell her that.. but all I did was make her
cry about it. Turns out she just entered another relation with her friend.




Sounds like a young woman who does not know what she wants. My advice is just be cordial and nonchalant. This sometimes has the opposite effect. (Never understood this myself the worse you treat some women the more they want you) If nothing happens then nothing happens. Move on, up or out.

P.S. I know what you are going through. I have lost a wife a few GF's due to my battles with M.S.
So if a fat crip like me can find some lovin anyone can.
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Old 02-18-2003, 11:50 AM
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Women...can't live with 'em, can't shoot 'em!

They truly are from Venus!

Usually can't figure my wife out, and now my daughter!

Anyway, I married her at the age of 31. Prior to that, my love life was pretty much a barren desert...I keep meeting either golddiggers or fickle heartbreakers...and I sure couldn't please the golddiggers!

Even though I'm married, I still hold some bitterness towards the women that put me through all those hoops. But those life experiences help you become what you are...in my case, it was to stop being a doormat!

Your situation sounds similar to many women I have encountered who float from relationship to relationship not really knowing what they want.

Your friend hasn't discovered herself yet, but it has nothing to do with her feelings for you. Right now, you are going to get hurt badly if you get deeply involved as she tries to sort her life out.

You can choose to stick around (despite the distance), but I would keep my options open. There are far too many women in this world to just decide there is only one for you.

Your perfect mate is probably somewhere, wondering if she will never meet someone like you...one day, you shall meet!

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Your perfect mate is probably somewhere, wondering if she will never meet someone like you...one day, you shall meet!
Well put!
Funny thing is, alot of the time the"perfect mate" may not be exactly what you think she should be. The girl I was dating that I referred to earlier was what I considerd perfect. We shared alot of interests, and agreed on a lot about life. She was gorgeous, and was just what every mother would like to have their son bring home to "meet the parents". I could go on and on about her. I still have some feelings for her 25 years later.
The girl I married wasn't quite all that. But I can see now that it's more her personality traits that have made her a good companion, more than the common interests that we could have shared. She has been eternally patient with me and my ways, and my wierd hobbies. She's been a great mother to my childeren. I could go on and on about her too.
I guess my point is, the best thing isn't always what you think it should be. When my wife and I met, there was just that "something" that clicked. It just felt right. And I really knew nothing about her.

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