Ok. What is this "Friends with benefits" stuff mean? - Page 2 - PeachParts Mercedes-Benz Forum

strelnik · #1 01-02-2009, 09:15 PM

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Originally Posted by kerry

Why aren't the benefits and drawbacks mutual?

Hey go look at Craig's List in a place like Ann Arbor, MI where Univ of Mich main campus is. about 30 grand a year to go there. Men and women all want dates/sex with NSA. They're not talking "the big ear in the sky," it means "no strings attached."

Besides, when you have benefits you typically work stuff out in advance. And it IS for older people than teenagers. I had a friend like that for two years when I was 47. I wanted to marry her, but she was obsessed with her business. She became very wealthy, then lost it all in the tech bubble of 2000-2001, now she runs a feral cat shelter.

Go figure.

Yeah I know, but no matter what you say, I'm not going to the cat shelter to see if I can get a little pussy for myself...
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aklim · #2 01-03-2009, 12:26 AM

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Originally Posted by kerry

Why aren't the benefits and drawbacks mutual?

Because some of us cling to some notion that it is good for the guy to get laid but if it is a girl, life ends.

The Clk Man · #3 01-03-2009, 12:30 AM

I have a wife of 27 years, who is a Friend with benefits, Does that Count?

aklim · #4 01-03-2009, 12:31 AM

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Originally Posted by The Clk Man

I have a wife of 27 years, who is a Friend with benefits, Does that Count?

Did you skip the dating part and live separate lives except for the times you have sex?

R Leo · #5 01-04-2009, 05:18 PM

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Originally Posted by The Clk Man

I have a wife of 27 years, who is a Friend with benefits, Does that Count?

SWMBOs benefit is that I'm the one to feed the cows in cold weather.

mwood · #6 01-03-2009, 01:54 AM

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Originally Posted by kerry

Why aren't the benefits and drawbacks mutual?

Because the guy want's it and the girl doesn't.

She says not now becasue he wants to be "Friends with benefits"

sfloriII · #7 01-03-2009, 01:48 PM

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Originally Posted by kerry

Why aren't the benefits and drawbacks mutual?

They are. They're just not as obvious for guys as gals. For example, what do years of "no strings attached" sex do to someone's ability to carry on a real relationship. I wonder how many people would have settled down with one woman in a marriage and had a wonderful life and a family.... but they were too busy trying to hook up annonymously with the next conquest to notice what they could have. How many single men/women do we know that arrive in their 40's and later years single and then wonder, "what happened??"

aklim · #8 01-03-2009, 01:53 PM

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Originally Posted by sfloriII

They are. They're just not as obvious for guys as gals. For example, what do years of "no strings attached" sex do to someone's ability to carry on a real relationship. I wonder how many people would have settled down with one woman in a marriage and had a wonderful life and a family.... but they were too busy trying to hook up annonymously with the next conquest to notice what they could have. How many single men/women do we know that arrive in their 40's and later years single and then wonder, "what happened??"

Marriage isn't for everyone. A stable relationship is work. Some don't want to do the work so even if there was no "no strings attached" sex, they might not settle down with one woman and even if they did, it might not work out because of their nature.

sfloriII · #9 01-03-2009, 01:59 PM

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Originally Posted by aklim

Marriage isn't for everyone. A stable relationship is work. Some don't want to do the work so even if there was no "no strings attached" sex, they might not settle down with one woman and even if they did, it might not work out because of their nature.

Then if it's their "nature" to be a womanizer..... then they'd do everyone (and mostly these women) a favor by keeping sex to themselves.

Jim B. · #10 01-02-2009, 07:43 PM

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Originally Posted by mwood

It means they aren't "boyfriend/girlfriend" anymore but will still have sex with no strings attached. Good for the guy, not so much for your daughter.

Why do think it is "Good for the guy"? I fail to see why you would say that, even if you maybe you meant something that may have escaped me, if you are talking about teenagers, or for that matter, people much much older.