After typing this post, I will be on my way to the juvenille dtention center to pick up my fifteen year old son for psoessin of marijuana and drup parephenalia.

After his recent episode with taking money from me, I denied it as I did'nt see any obvious symptoms and he was still getting good grades in school.

Some members suggested that may have been the case and I failed to consider it, which I now know should have been heavily considered.

My wife was completely distraught and I am ashamed of myself beyond belief.

My wife has been telling me that we give him too much freedom and I agree with her. From now on, anywhere we go, he goes. No more staying home for the weekend by himself. In fact, there will be a bunch of no mores. Just gotta think of them.

I suppose we all go thru a phase, but it doesn't make it any easier to take.

I'm gonna pull a Sipowicz from NYPD blue and pull out the big phone book for when I question him.

Where'd you gt it from?

Ummmm, some kid..

Whack!

Where'd you get it from?

Gotta go get the pothead outta juvi hall.

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Ouch. But look at it this way maybe it will be a turning point for him. Maybe this will scare him enough.

I lot of people I knew back in highschool experimented with pot. For some nothing came of it they used it a few times and moved on. But for a few it has become quite an addiction. Those kids dropped off my radar after we graduated all I can say is a I hope they figure it out.

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I can say that I am actually glad it happened and he got takien away from scholl in a police car, handcuffed and all. Perhaps tha fear and embarassment was enough.

What makes me feel like an ahole is that after his latest episode of taking money from my wallet, he seemed remorseful and we eased up on him a bit.

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I don't know all the details of life with your kid, but I don't think I would make a huge deal of it if it were my kid and my kid seemed to be happy and doing well in other aspects of her life. Not to say I would encourage her, but it isn't anything I didn't do as an older teen and I wouldn't want something like marijuana use to drive a wedge between us. Now if my kid was doing poorly at school or seemed to have social issues, that would be a different situation.

Well it really isn't your fault if that helps at all.

Well when I was 15 not to long ago if their was somthing I wanted to do and my parents said no I would do it anyway. When I was that age at least, "no" just ment don't get caught. Heck 4 years later and nothing has changed. Luckly he is still young and probably hasn't been doing it for long. It is probably better he was caught now insted of in a few years. Back in highschool pot was a group and friend thing, chances are he was smoking with other people.

Good luck I hope everything works out!

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While all the other aspects of his life are fine, it's hard not to make a big deal out of it when he may get kicked out of a magnet school and have to be put in one of the shottiest schools in the Dade county system.

Like I said, we all go thru phases, but there will be reprecussions.

I'm waiting on the wife to get here so we can toss his room before we go get him.

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Plant,
Just be happy you are picking him up from jail and not the morgue. I recommend you take this as a wakeup call. Since I have no kids, I have no room to talk. However, I think that your role as a parent should be a parent and not a best friend. If it means being viewed as an ******* (thus uncool) by your kid, so be it. This is not the time to be inconsistent.

My $0.02 and will probably get change back.

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So you missed the ques....everyones hindsight is always 20/20. Trick is to look ahead...keep him on a short leash and make sure he doesn't run with the wrong crowd.

Worst case? Do what a friend did with her son who wasn't listening....she enrolled him in a Militarty academy.

I would bet his problem is who his friends are.......He might very well be a good kid at heart who was influenced by a bad element ( kids he considers cool...but are really trouble).

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"He who fights with monsters might take care lest he thereby become a monster. And if you gaze for long into an abyss, the abyss gazes also into you." - Friedrich Nietzsche

Yes, it's a tough thing when you're facing repercussions like that. My only real advice, FWIW, is to realize that your kid is going to do what he wants. I wouldn't forbid anything or lay down ultimatums. I would explain the situation to him like an adult and discuss repercussions and hope he'll do the right thing. Backing him in a corner is usually counterproductive. When I was going through that phase, my parents tried to get all tough about it, and all it accomplished was cutting the lines of communication. The more they told not to do something, the more I did it.

Man, I feel for you. It's not easy to be a parent. I am lucky that both of my kids never really had any problems in that nature. They have good disciplines. I would suggest that you and your wife have a real heart to heart talk with your boy. And ask him what he is going to do to turn his life around. If he has the right answers, he will be much more committed if this comes from himself. I know you are very angry at him and he needs discipline, but I hope he does not become rebellious. Perhaps another close member of the family, such as your brother, sister or your wife's side, can have a good talk with him. Hope things turns out well for you and your wife

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THe friend I speak of is a single mom who works 3 jobs as a housekeeper.

She is still paying for Militart school (you are there 24 hours a day)

Thats is discipline unlike any you will get at home and in public school.

This kid rebelled and refused to listen....Now his grades are up and he has peers who are disciplined and an enviroment that is positive.

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"He who fights with monsters might take care lest he thereby become a monster. And if you gaze for long into an abyss, the abyss gazes also into you." - Friedrich Nietzsche

No change here you're right on the money.

Most importantly be the parent that you are, I see that many people are trying to remote control your child. You can't take parenting advice from other because every family is a dynamic thing no two are remotely alike.

And one thing that I've noticed is most people that seem to offer parenting advice have a good batch of screwed up kids and are in denial.


So my thats $0.02 no change given. It's your kid and you'll know what to do.

I always keep in mind that kid's get in trouble for everything these days, the tolerance level is 0. I remember a cop grinding a doobie into the pavement and telling me to get my ass home, I'm sure many members can relate.

Sounds like a good kid who made a bad choice. Can you and your wife help him make better decisions for himself? Did you smoke it when you were 15? What would your reaction have been if your folks ransacked your room? Lots of work for you all to. He's lucky to have pretty good parents. Good luck.

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Can you let him sweat it out in Juvie for a little while (if only a couple of hours)? Rather than ransack the room, see if the cops will send a sniffer dog over and give the place a once-over. Less intrusive, and better all-around. Then you can ask him to level with you: do you have anything else in the house? See what he says.

Be glad it's just weed. It was never my thing (couldn't afford it even if it was), but I can think of lots of worse addictions! Good luck!

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