what do I do? - PeachParts Mercedes-Benz Forum

TheDon · #1 04-07-2011, 10:00 AM

This whole broken aveo situation at home is getting to me.

First of, my parents cannot afford to fix it at all. It's ridiculously tight here. I don't even have any spare cash to help out.

I told my mom I'll get it back together with the help of my friends and she said "is it going to run". Thanks.. thanks you don't think your own son is capable of fixing it.. thanks...

I told her I don't have to even try I can just leave it and let them deal with it..

I don't know what to do. I can't just walk away from it and have the car sit there while my step dad doesn't know how he's going to get to and from work.

I want to move out and was going to tell them... Monday I found a friend that had a good rate for me at his place.. but then this crap happened. I can't walk away from this. I haven't been able to think clearly, I bombed my physics test yesterday because I missed out on study time and I couldn't think clearly.

I do not like this at all.

Iva Biggen · #2 04-07-2011, 10:12 AM

Maybe it's time for you to grow a set of Balls and get out on your own . You are over 18 .

Hatterasguy · #3 04-07-2011, 10:17 AM

Move out, its not your fault that your dad ignored the service interval on the timing belt and now doesn't have a car.

Fix his car in your spare time and if that's not acceptable to him he can have it towed to a shop and figure out how to pay to fix it himself.

padrino · #4 04-07-2011, 10:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Iva Biggen

Maybe it's time for you to grow a set of Balls and get out on your own . You are over 18 .

Sound harsh but never the less so true.....If you ready to move out, just move out.

PaulC · #5 04-07-2011, 10:27 AM

Pitch in and do your best. Everyone, including you, is stressed out right now, and may be saying things that may not be taken well by others. Let your mother's comment just go over your head.

How difficult is it to R&R the head and replace the timing belt? Is the Aveo tough to work on? Is addressing this situation really going to have a significant impact on your desire/timetable to move out?

Iva Biggen · #6 04-07-2011, 10:27 AM

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Originally Posted by padrino

Sound harsh but never the less so true.....If you ready to move out, just move out.

Yes it is Harsh just like the Real World he is about to Discover . If he can hack it then he will grow . If not he can move back like 80 percent of the younger generation do .

Kuan · #7 04-07-2011, 10:32 AM

Your mom is upset as well. She doesn't really mean she doesn't trust you, she wants the best outcome for the least amount of stress. She is also at a loss and she feels really helpless. Be gratefull that she's not tossing whisky bottles at you.

TX76513 · #8 04-07-2011, 10:39 AM

Can they be convinced the Aveo is a POS? Last year why my daughter was in Iraq my son and I took on the task of "fixing" her Aveo. Everything we touched led to more repairs and we are pretty adept at cars. Fortunately for us there were 4 at the Pull a Part to ravage from. When she returned and thanked us we only said "Please sell this car as soon as you can find a buyer".

layback40 · #9 04-07-2011, 10:52 AM

Hey Don,
If the situation at home is having a negative influence on your studies then it is time to make changes to your living arrangements.
I think your mom will understand if you explain that you need to reduce the stress in your life as its not good for your studies.
Saying "I am moving out" will only upset & inflame things. Saying you need to spend some time away from home to help you with your studies may be a more gentle approach.
I had friends that moved from home into on campus accommodation when I was at uni for the same reasons as you are advancing.

To offer to help with fixing the car is a noble thing to do. Stressing about the consequences of car problems is you taking on problems that are not yours.

At the end of the day, realize that all of us on here wish you well in these difficult times !!!

The Swede · #10 04-07-2011, 11:21 AM

Be part of the solution. Ignore her comment the best you can, fix the car with your friends and then work on getting your own place. You need to take care of yourself first.

In the meantime, can't step-Dad take a bus to work or get a ride?

TheDon · #11 04-07-2011, 12:18 PM

The depot for his job is 20 miles away. No form of public transportation.

I have gotten better quotes at getting the head rebuilt, and should get a quote on the parts to put it all back together.

I'm going to help out with this where I can and then I think it is time for me to move out. Either with to my friends place or hopefully find a decent set of room mates. Class is going to get crazy soon and I cannot afford to drive to UCF 5 days a week if I have to have classes every day of the week.

I feel better right now.

lutzTD · #12 04-07-2011, 02:06 PM

to be honest, trying to avoid stress by moving out is not the solution. The stress from home will follow you through the phone lines. You will be worried more since you are not up to the minute informed. Moving out is also going to place many new burdens on you that you do not know about yet. Best to make that move when you can focus on the need as its own issue and not part of another unrelated issue

Now the fun part. As an adult you can ask to sit down with all involved and make an informed decision on the car. Its not your responsibility to provide them with all the answers, give them the chance and opportunity to solve their own problem. You have a few options, you seem to be pretty on top of all the options. Spell them out and discuss the risks.

Seems like you are limited by short term goals but a car is more of a long term situation as well as the decision to move out is a long term decision. Tackle the big stuff first, mange your time for school and study with a heavy hand and dont allow the car situation to infringe on the study. Make this clear in your discussion.

It may turn out that a loan for a new car or newer used car makes the most sense in the long term, but this needs to be part of the overall discussion.

tbomachines · #13 04-07-2011, 02:16 PM

Time goes on, life is what you make of it. I know how stressful school can be, can't imagine having parents in the ear as well. If you do move out, living arrangements and roomates can make all the difference. It wasn't until I began living by myself (no roomates) that I started getting good grades and salvaged my college degree. The next year I moved into a party house (think frat house only not with d-bags) and the grades went down again. Get yourself a good set of roomates who are work and academic-concious and you'll be a lot better off. As far as the Aveo, its your dad's car, he ignored the service interval and ultimately should have to deal with that. Sounds like a lot of your stress is around the POS Daewoo...think about whats more important, your schoolwork or fixing a car soemone else broke? In conclusion - **** happens, its all about going with the flow until it gets better.

panZZer · #14 04-07-2011, 02:17 PM

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Originally Posted by TX76513

Can they be convinced the Aveo is a POS? Last year why my daughter was in Iraq my son and I took on the task of "fixing" her Aveo. Everything we touched led to more repairs and we are pretty adept at cars. Fortunately for us there were 4 at the Pull a Part to ravage from. When she returned and thanked us we only said "Please sell this car as soon as you can find a buyer".

4 in the junk yard?? An aveo is a pretty new car- isn't it??
but a POJ late model with the nasty little rubber band,aluminum/plastic motor.

tbomachines · #15 04-07-2011, 02:20 PM

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Originally Posted by panZZer

4 in the junk yard?? An aveo is a pretty new car- isn't it??
but a POJ late model with the nasty little rubber band,aluminum/plastic motor.

The hatchbacks were actually kind of fun to drive. Back when I worked in the auto parts industry we used to have a couple of the aveos as delivery vehicles. We'd buzz the crap out of them all the way to redline, tried our hand at stunt driving in the loading docks/warehouse lot in back. Couldn't keep up with the pickups in a drag race though